The Worst Person To Run From Is Yourself AKA F.E.A.R

‘Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?’

‘I do’


I’m scared I’ll never be respected.

I’m scared I’ll never publish a book.

I’m scared I’ll never be able to look after my Mum the way she looks after me.

I’m scared I’ll never truly earn my brothers respect.

I’m scared I won’t be a good father.

I’m scared I’ll never leave Grays.

I’m scared I’ll never see the world.

I’m scared that I’ll never have sex again.

I’m scared that I’ll never have a real relationship

I’m scared I’m unemployable, because I’ve never had a ‘real’ job.

I’m scared I’ll never earn enough money to live.

I’m scared I’ll return to Nigeria as a failure.

I’m scared I won’t learn a language.

I’m scared I’ll fall into depression again.

I’m scared I’ll gamble again and lose all my money (again)

I’m scared I won’t be able to live up to my words.

I’m scared people will think I’m a hypocrite.

I’m scared that I’ll never achieve my potential.

I’m scared to start

I’m scared to finish

I’m scared of myself.

I could do this for a while.

I used to.  I still have these doubts.  But:

‘Courage is not the absence of fear, rather the judgement that there is something more important than fear’ – Ambrose Redmoon

I was scared to ship this.

But if this liberates one person to harness there fear as it did for me.

Then we’ll all be one step closer.

Because being scared got me nowhere.  So let’s see how this goes…….


False Expectations Appearing Real


Dubem Menakaya

  • LouisNC

    Absolute truth right here. I love the honesty in your articles. You’re an inspiration bro! There’s another way we can approach FEAR. Face Everything And Rise!!!

    • Dubem Menakaya

      Thanks bro glad you got something from it. I like that! Face Everything And Rise, Im gonna have to take that :)

  • Kirsten Sorsby

    Thank you for this! Your honesty and authenticity are inspiring! I know I’m not part of the young audience you are speaking to, but your post resonated in my fearful, middle-aged heart.

    • Dubem Menakaya

      Thank you Kirsten, I’m glad it helped. We all go through the same BS no matter the age. And I really mean the young of heart! As Aaliyah said, ‘Age ain’t nothin but a number’.